Men are from mars

There has been a misconception in this world and that is that one must tear down someone else to feel important.  Too many times people step on others on their way to the top.  This does not have to be; it is not and never has been that one person is better than the other.  We are all different and every single one of us has their strengths and their weaknesses.  Those who prey on others’ weaknesses are scum.  I have always been a champion for those who are not strong or too old or too young to care for themselves.  I have seen it happen over the years.  I have seen a good cause become something less than what it should be.  I can’t figure out why and it tends to aggravate me greatly.

I have a daughter and two granddaughters and one grandson, so I want you to understand that I want the same opportunity, compensation and rights for the ladies in my family as I do my grandson.  The thing I want to talk about today is what I perceive to be the wrong that the feminist movement has done to young boys and men.  Ladies, you are as good as men; you are as smart as men and in your own way, you are as strong as men ever thought about being.  But there are differences and these differences do not change the fact that women are equal and necessary citizens of the world.  I also want you to know that I deplore abuse of any kind to any person for any reason!  Rape is a crime not just against females. It also happens to men and boys and no matter what gender it happens to, it is a crime not only against that person, it is a crime against humanity itself!

The de-masculinization of the male population is uncalled for.  The feminist movement should have never been meant to take away anything from the male of the species; on the contrary the partnership between men and women has always strengthened our society.  But it seems that even a boy in elementary school is molded into what the female image of a boy is supposed to be.  Girls are said to be more mature at a younger age and I question this hypothesis, because it seems to me that that is only true depending on how you judge what maturity is.  In saying that I don’t want to take anything away from the young ladies, in their own way they are more mature but judged in a different light, they are no more mature than their young male counterparts.  When elementary school teachers teach, they teach to reach the females in the classroom easier than the males. This is because most of them are female and there’s nothing wrong with that.  However, I would like to point out that when a young man is approached from a male intellectual vantage point and taught with a male perspective, they do extremely well.

When young boys are roughhousing and fighting, it’s not just something bad to be punished for, even though I deplore violence and always have, it is a part of a learning process for young men and it develops a masculine outlook on life.  When boys were made to suppress their rambunctiousness and their foolishness that is typically male, it is stifling a part of a man that has learned to be strong and forceful.  I know that these traits carried too far can be dangerous and can cause problems later on in life.  I also know that aggression against anyone is wrong.  I would however like someone to explain to me why the most beautiful young women are attracted to the bad boys.  I need to know why it is the female of our species is attracted to dangerous young men.  I think I have finally found out why, at least in my own mind.  It is because the female equates the bad boy image to strength, which is not necessarily true, but one might think that the bad boy would be able to protect and care for her better than the class nerd, which has been proven to be false. 

I felt like I’d never fit in because I had gotten mixed signals my entire life from the females that were around me.  Ladies want their men to be sweet and kind but at the same time they want them to be strong, ruthless and vicious if necessary.  Women want their men to dress nicely and look good in a suit and tie, but will turn their heads when the muscular biker dude walks by and, even if it’s inside, they sigh just a little.  The teachers preach and browbeat and punish our young men for being what they consider unruly and aggressive.  But you can see the young girls whispering to each other about the young man that was just sent to the principal’s office because what little girl doesn’t like a rebel.  I know what you ladies that I went to school with are saying. I never liked the bad boys, OK, then let me ask you this. Which young men did you pay more attention to, was it the one that sat in class and did his homework quietly and did everything his parents and teachers asked him to do?

The feminist movement has always pronounced that men and women are alike.  I don’t think I even have to protest that statement because most of us know for a fact that men and women are different and always have been and always will be.  We’re not just different in physical and medical ways, we’re different in mentality as well as the perception of a male is totally different of that of female.  As an example; a husband comes home with a birthday present for his wife, he gives it to her and he sees that there is disappointment on her face so he asks her why?  She explains that she had been giving him hints about what she wanted for the last four weeks.  Most women would take into account that men just don’t listen to them and I’m here to tell you that that’s not true.  I know that most women think that hinting, beating around the bush, or suggesting something is enough to make a man understand what they’re saying and men’s brains to not work that way. We are direct and to the point. We don’t beat around the bush or hint to one of our buddies, we tell them point blank good, bad, or otherwise. We say that in the fewest words possible, even sometimes just a grunt. 

When next you talk to your husband and he’s busy doing something, I want you to try this. Say something to him point blank, in as few words as possible and I do mean as few words as possible and see what his reaction is.  Then I want you to beat around the bush and hint something and take a long time to say something that should only take three or four words to say.  Now, I want you to look at is his reaction to the short to the point statement and then how long it takes for him to completely zone away from you with your long rambling sentence that is hinting something.  The point I’m trying to make is men will lose interest in even a short conversation when it is not direct and to the point, it’s the way our minds work.  This seems to get worse as we get older and I apologize to every female in my life that I have done this to but, believe me, it’s not my fault, it’s the way men are wired.  We are different than women who don’t like direct and to the point. It seems to hurt their feelings if you don’t go around the world and sneak up on the subject from behind.  I don’t want you to get me wrong. I don’t want to change that in the ladies in my life, it’s part of who they are.  I ask you, why do you have to change your boys and men to fit better in this scenario for you, remember it’s who they are and who they were and who they will be in the future.

Women can be as physically strong as men but not in the same way and that may not be a statement that fits every woman in the world but it does, however, pertain to most.  There is a physical difference that makes women stronger in the lower half of their body than in the upper half.  It is absolutely the opposite way with men, the upper half of their body is stronger.

The one thing that really a annoys me is this notion of equal pay for equal work.  I am 58 years old and every job I have ever done I have started out making less than any of my counterparts, no matter what gender on a job.  I do know however they are talking about a man and a woman that both have 10 years doing the exact same job making an unequal rate of pay.  I have known many men doing the same jobs, with the same amount of experience, that do not make the same rate of pay. Now you can’t call that gender discrimination.  I don’t want you to think that I personally think that that scenario is right but both of those men negotiated what they get in compensation for their respective jobs.

So I want you to think about the fact that you want all your little boys to be good little boys but you want your men to have that mystique of foreboding. If you still want to argue whether it’s true or not, just look at what the Vampire Diaries or Twilight have made since their inception.  I don’t know how an equal balance of both good and evil makes one a better man, but I’m convince that women like us better that way. I also ask you why it is that young women marry the bad boys, and within a few years divorce them and look for the good boys they ignored while still in school.

If women held all the important jobs in the world and men were only relegated to the menial tasks, do you really think that these men would have any self-esteem, do you really think you want a man that is weak and totally dependent on the women in his life.  I don’t think so.

We need strong masculine man and we need women that can take charge and get the job done, but we also need them to be our loving husbands and wives.  So I beg of you, don’t overdo the feminist movement to the point that men are no longer feeling needed and wanted and masculine. I don’t think you’ll like the outcome.

Just to set the record straight, I am for total equality for women and always have been.  I just want you to know that I am also for the total equality of men as well.